Now, not only do I get a hard time about C not being potty trained, I also get a hard time about him still nursing. As he was nearing 2 years old, I would get questions about weaning him. When I found out I was pregnant with Baby C those questions only came more frequently and were even more annoying than before. It was like everyone thought I was strange for wanting to tandem nurse. Here's the thing, I make plenty of milk to nurse both of my boys without any issue. Baby C has been gaining weight exactly like his brother did when he was a baby. I'm not worried about the baby not getting enough milk. In fact, I have designated the left side to the baby and the right side to C. This makes things easier for me. First, this means both breasts are being emptied so that helps me avoid plugged ducts and mastitis. I had a terrible time with both when C was a baby. I even ended up with mastitis when Baby C was just a month or so old. Tandem nursing has been a wonderful experience so far. Sure it has it's days where I just want to quit and just have my one baby to nurse, but the good days trump the bad days.
It's just so extremely frustrating to me when people tell me I need to wean my toddler. There are still plenty of benefits to him nursing. Not only for him, but for me as well. It always baffles me when others are so judgmental of full term nursing mothers. If it's "not for you" fine, wean your baby at one. However, if another mother is comfortable nursing her baby past 1,2 or 3, you should have nothing to say to her. Just be supportive and if you can't be that, just don't say a word. It's hard. It's so hard being a full term nursing mother when so many people are giving you the stink eye and making comments behind your back. I've always set goals for myself. I set the goal of 6 months, then a year and finally 2 years. We didn't have the easiest nursing relationship in the beginning, but it definitely got easier and I loved it more and more. I never set a goal past 2 years, because at this point, it's all up to him if he continues or if he stops. From the looks of it, he's not going to be stopping before he turns 3. Insert big, huge, giant *gasp* from those who judge. You
Since he does eat solids, nursing him is much different than nursing Baby C. I tend to shy away from nursing in public unless he absolutely needs it. This is because he can and does eat solid food, he doesn't depend on nursing like Baby C does. However, if he's really having hard time and needs the comfort or if he gets hurt, I have no issues nursing him wherever. Just yesterday we went to eat lunch and the poor little dude just has not been feeling the best lately. He came up and sat on my lap and asked to nurse. I let him because there is nothing more pathetic than a sick child. When we're at home, it's completely different. I'll nurse him as much as he wants to nurse. I usually offer him something to eat before and after to make sure he's getting full enough, but if he declines, I'm okay with nursing. The most important thing is that he's healthy and happy.
Back to tandem nursing for a moment. I have to say that I feel like it's helped ease C into the transition of being a big brother. While he doesn't always want to nurse at the same time as the baby and often says "Daddy, take baby please!" he knows that if the baby is nursing, he either has to wait, or join. I feel it's been a wonderful bonding experience and has been keeping the three of us close. Bonding is one of the biggest rewards of nursing and I wouldn't trade it for anything. When we first brought the baby home, C didn't want anything to do with him. He would pretend he didn't exist and hated the attention the baby got. Now he doesn't mind giving the baby kisses or tickling his feet.
He used to get extremely upset if Baby C would touch him at all during nursing and last night I caught him trying to hold the baby's hand. So tandem nursing has definitely been working in our favor. I will say that it's entirely up to you and your comfort level if you're wiling to tandem nurse or not. It's not for everyone and that's alright! You do what works best for your family and your little ones. The same goes for full term nursing. If you're not comfortable nursing past 2, then that's fine. Like I said though, try not to judge those of us who want to let our little ones nurse until they are ready to wean themselves. It's hard enough being a mom as it is, we don't need added stress from fellow mothers.