Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Confessions of A Pregnant Woman! (Part 2!)

I think an appropriate title for this one would be something like, "Yes I'm STILL Pregnant!" or maybe, "NO, I'm Not Having Contractions Today." The most popular questions I have been getting lately are as follows:

"Are you okay?" -Yes, I'm 
fine. I'm 39.2 weeks pregnant, I'm not super chatty because I'm exhausted and I'd rather take a nap than talk to you. Just being honest here.

"Are you having contractions?! You're rubbing your belly. Does it hurt?!" -Oh my freaking goodness. NO! I'm not having contractions, you would know if I was because I wouldn't be sitting here. I'd be on my way home to get more comfortable and prepare mentally for popping this baby out!

"Oh my gosh. You're still pregnant?" Wait, what? It's that obvious?! This isn't necessarily always a question, more so a statement usually. Either way, it's annoying. You see my huge belly so it's safe to assume I'm still pregnant and honestly just want to throat punch you right now.

"When are you going to have this baby? I'm ready!" I'm sorry, what? YOU'RE ready? This can be extremely insensitive and is just so annoying that I really, really want to throat punch you. (Yes, I'm at the angry part of pregnancy now.) I mean really though, you're telling a woman who is at the very end of her pregnancy, waiting to meet her sweet little baby that she's been housing for months that you're ready for baby to arrive. You're not the going through the pregnancy, labor or birth, so just don't say things like this.

"Let's have a baby!" While I understand when people say this, they don't mean it the way I've taken it. It's just really hard to take it any other way though. Like the above question and response, I'm the one who's pregnant and I'm the one going through labor and birth. This isn't a team event. The only people that are actually helping me out are the people I've selected to be present during labor and birth. Even then, they can't give birth for me. While they're there for support and love, I'm the one actually giving birth.

So at this point, I may smile and nod at you when you say some of these kinds of things or ask the same questions that are asked several times every single day, I really would just love to be rude and walk away. There are a few I don't mind asking questions. My doulas need updates, because they're on call. So they need to know if things are changing. I usually try to give them a daily update whether something is happening or not, but sometimes I forget and they ask. Which is totally fine with me, they need to know. 
I know that people who are close to me are excited about baby's arrival and I understand that. I just really hate so much attention and when you come across a pregnant woman, people can't help but give her tons of (unwanted) attention. I find random strangers in public stopping to ask me how much longer I have. I just hate answering this question so often. A woman stopped me the other day at the grocery store while I was trying to wrangle my cranky toddler into the shopping cart and asked how far along I was. I told her 39 weeks then she commented about how she was (I think she said) 22 weeks. I simply smiled and said, "It's exciting" and walked away. I was too exhausted to carry on any kind of conversation. I heard her friend comment something about me or my belly as they left. At this point I wouldn't mind staying at home until after baby gets here. It's exhausting to go out and even more exhausting to talk about being pregnant. 

So a couple things to keep in mind. If I'm rubbing my belly or holding onto it, it doesn't mean I'm having contractions. A couple things it could mean: The baby is kicking hard and at this point since baby is so big, it's really uncomfortable and might hurt a bit. It could also mean that I just ate, so now I'm stuffed, which is also uncomfortable since I'm already feeling giant! It could also just be that I enjoy rubbing my giant pregnant belly because as much as I complain about annoying things people say, I have been enjoying pregnancy. I might also just be thinking about how close I am to having this baby and I imagine holding such a tiny little human being in my arms. Then it reminds me that I might actually miss this pregnant belly at some point when my baby is getting bigger and growing out of clothing.
Also, if we're riding in the car together and you ask me if I'm okay and I respond yes, please don't ask me twenty more times or ask me if I'm sure. If I wasn't sure, I would have said no. I'm fine! It's just that riding in a car is not an easy task these days. The seat belt is hard to adjust to make sure I'm comfortable and just riding in the car is difficult. Taking turns and even accelerating is kind of hard on me. So just ignore me in the car unless I'm screaming at you that I'm having contractions.
One last complaint is the fact that so many people want to be alerted when I go into labor. People I don't know well or people I'm not even really friends with. Some people I haven't talked to in ages. If I haven't seen you in the last month or so, chances are I'm not going to have anyone text or call you. I'm not trying to broadcast my labor and birth. There are only a handful of people I want knowing because I don't want tons of visitors unexpectedly. If you're one of those who are just really excited, I get it. You can either text me or my husband (I might have one or two others you can text or call) and we'll let you know when we're up for visitors. Having a baby is a very intimate moment. I want only the closest people there and even afterwards, it's still an extremely special moment for those involved.

Here are a few things people have said lately that made me smile.
I've had a few friends comment on my belly picture telling me how beautiful it is. Obviously I don't want people to lie to me. If you don't think it's beautiful, don't say so. Just don't say anything at all. I was also told how great/lovely I look. Again, if it's a lie, don't say it. It's just really nice to hear that I still look great even though I'm housing another human being. I really do appreciate those comments and they really do make me smile even on a bad day. So if you have made a comment like this, I sincerely want to thank you. 

Alright, so I need to make a couple confessions, because that is after all the title of the post.

-When I say I'm hungry and want a snack, I don't mean some fruit or crackers. (Although I had some fruit earlier and it was delicious!) What I mean is go get me a burrito from Taco Belly because I'm not going to make it until dinner! That's what a snack means to me. Something smaller would be something to munch on. 

-While I'm not nervous about labor and birth, I'm a little nervous about having two kids! I wrote about this previously, but I think it'll be an adjustment going from one to two kids. 

-I can't wait to have our little one in our arms, but I'm totally okay with going "over" my due date. Honestly, this is because I really, really want to go to the GCDC. I know, a silly reason, but it's an honest one. I want to go get an awesome swag bag, join in breaking the record and hanging out with other cloth diapering mamas! It's what makes me happy, so whatever. No judging on how lame I am! 

-The weather has been absolutely beautiful lately, but since I don't have much energy because I can't move around as easily as everyone else, I prefer to stay inside (usually in bed) watching a movie or playing online. 

-Sometimes I use pregnancy as an excuse to get out of things I don't want to do. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's done it. 

Just a final thought here, please stop telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing. It doesn't help anything and just makes me irate. I will continue to pick up (and yes nurse- because I get crap for this all the time) my toddler. There is nothing wrong with either of them.. I know my limits and I never push myself. I think it's worse when I get "advice" on what to or not to do from people I don't even know. It's super obnoxious and weird. If I don't know you, just leave me alone. I'm going to end this on a positive note. The other day I walked into the kitchen and realized my husband had done all the dishes. This made me so happy because the kitchen is my least favorite room to clean. He's been super helpful even when I've just been annoying and I love him so much for all he does for me!

I hope I don't offend my family/friends who might have said/done some of these things. I do really love you all.

Question time!
What is/are the most annoying thing/things people said to you when you were pregnant? How did you handle them?

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Confessions of A Pregnant Woman! (Part One)

I really wanted to title this something along the lines of, "confessions of a pregnant woman who's about to give birth any day now and is annoyed with everything and everyone" but that doesn't sound as good as the one I went with. Alright, so I'm not annoyed with everyone or even everything, but most people. I feel like at the beginning of each day I should post this:

Along with some pretty standard questions that I seem to always get. Let's run through some questions I've been getting from strangers, family, neighbors and anyone who sees I've "swallowed a basket ball".

-Do you know what you're having? Yes, it's a baby. At least I hope it is. It was looking like an alien there for a while. We'll see when I give birth though.

-Have you thought of a name? No, we thought about just naming the alien after one random person in the room.

-Oh my gosh, you're about to pop! OR You're so huge! How much longer? I've decided to stay pregnant forever.

-You look like you just swallowed a basketball. Well, that seems quite impossible, now doesn't it?

-Are you having contractions?! (Usually asked by someone close because I'm holding my belly.) No, I just ate so I'm a little gassy and might just need to fart. So you should probably not stand to close. Not to mention, this kid is dragging limbs across my belly, kicking me in the lungs/ribs so I'm just a tad uncomfortable right now.

I also constantly get questions about labor and birth that drive me insane. Questions about what we plan on doing with our son while all that's going on and unsolicited advice about what we should be doing. Yes, I'm still nursing my 2 year old. He still wants to nurse and I'm comfortable (for the most part) with him doing so. Please stop telling me wean him because it really makes me want to slap you. Our son will be present during labor and the birth as he is part of our family and I want him involved. No, this will not traumatize him. He's been very much apart of this pregnancy from day one, going to appointments and whatnot. We've even watched a few homebirth videos together. He's excited for his baby to get here. Of course I'm concerned about jealousy issues, which is why I've had him part of this whole pregnancy from the get go. Please stop telling me how my son is going to react to the new baby. The two people who know him best are his parents. Not anyone else. 
Stop commenting on my size. Seriously, it's extremely rude. I understand that for a tiny figured woman I look ginormous. I really do. It's still not acceptable to comment on. It's also extremely rude to comment on my eating habits or suggest I'm not eating as much (or as little) as I should be. I eat when I'm hungry, which is pretty often, just ask my husband. I think he's gaining as much weight as I have. I have actually gained less this pregnancy than I did with C's. Not because I'm not eating how I "should" but because I eat differently. Each pregnancy is different so comparing the two and making judgement because I'm "not taking care of myself" is just ignorant. I hate to sound so mean in this post, but I'm at the point in pregnancy (39 weeks you guys!) that I really just don't have patience and I can't just always smile and nod when people get on my nerves. I should note that I have no issues discussing certain things with close friends and family. Most of the time anyway.
Now I want to get a few confessions off my chest. This will be the fun part that not many pregnant women talk about because a lot of it is probably embarrassing. Heck, I don't care. I'm 39 weeks and about to give birth any day now. 

-I rarely shave my legs, but I do occasionally get to them because I don't want crazy hairy legs when I give birth. I'm pretty sure my husband has commented on several occasions about my crazy hair. It's not that I can't shave this far in pregnancy, because I totally can. It's just a bit tiring so I do it when I get around to it. Which is probably once a month!

-If I could stay in bed all day, I would. Partly because I'm extremely uncomfortable lugging this huge belly around, but also because I'm lazy. Making a human is exhausting. While nothing is medically or physically "wrong" with me, I just get tired easily and would prefer to stay in bed all day in my pajamas.

-I say I don't want help with certain things, but when someone offers I rarely ever decline. For example, my sister has come over to help me with 2 loads of diaper laundry that I just refused to fold. She's also helped clean up here and there because I'm just super lazy and don't feel like doing it. She's been pretty awesome.

-I wouldn't mind going one day without discussing pregnancy. My husband reminded me it's just the first thing that comes up because it's obvious and noticeable. This is very much true, but does not stop me from wanting to throat punch people because I'm just annoyed with all the questions and smart remarks.

-Sometimes I avoid seeing certain people because I know they're going to jump in my bubble and rub all over my belly like when they see a puppy on the street. I really wonder how many of those people run up to a guy with a beer gut and rub on his lovely belly.

-I always have the most hilarious comebacks to annoying/stupid questions that I constantly get, but I'm too nice to actually say them to someone in person. A lady at the grocery store asked what I'm having and of course I wanted to use the awesome response above. However, I just smiled and answered her. I'm just not very confrontational and have a hard time actually being "mean" when I really wish I could.

-I eat and drink what I crave. There will be times I have Taco Bell twice in one week because it's delicious and I want it. I drink Pepsi because I crave it so bad. This doesn't mean I'm completely unhealthy. I try to drink at least 1-2 cups for every one Pepsi I drink. (It doesn't always happen though.) Oh and *gasp* my Pepsi usually has caffeine. I just know not to overdo it and drink water to stay hydrated.

-I'm way too oversensitive about certain things and I know it. But whatever!

I figured I'd add a recent belly shot for you all. This is me practicing with my new ringsling (which is gorgeous in person). I actually won it (I'll write up a review when squishy gets here) from Willow Tree Ring Slings!

So that's basically it for this round. I love being pregnant, I really do, but people just get weird and annoying when it comes to pregnant women. To change the tone a bit, I'm loving having my two doulas for this pregnancy! They really have made this journey less stressful. I'm not nervous about labor or birth at all and I'd like to give the two of them credit for this. The one thing I'm nervous about is having 2 kids now instead of just one. It'll be quite a journey, but I'm ready! I want to take a moment to thank my awesome husband for listening to me always complain about what people say, because I know he just doesn't care anymore, but he pretends to listen. Of course I want to thank my doulas for being absolutely amazing and wonderful! This birth is going to rock because of them! I also want to thank my sister because she brings me Pepsi when I have none and helps me do things because I'm lazy. She's just that awesome. 
Here's hoping I can get a few more of these posts in before the baby gets here, but like I admitted several times, I'm lazy. So we'll see how well that goes. For now, I'm going to go lay in bed and hopefully fall back to sleep. For some reason I thought it was a good idea to get up at 6 am (after only 4 hours of sleep) so I could do laundry and write this post. Also, have a very happy Easter (if you celebrate)! Eat tons of candy and delicious food and enjoy that family time.

Saturday, April 19, 2014

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Friday, April 4, 2014

Aden + Anais Swaddle Review and Giveaway!

When I had my son 2 years ago, I had no idea these swaddle blankets existed. We asked for a set that matched his bedding for my baby shower. They were adorable, but I noticed the difference in size compared to the ones we brought home from the hospital. They were so small that we couldn't use them as swaddles for very long. My son was born 8 lbs 6 oz, so he was a decent sized newborn and only grew bigger pretty quickly. I attempted to use the swaddles (the ones from my baby shower and the hospital) for other things, such as nursing covers or a blanket to put over the car seat, but the size was an issue. After my son was over a year (and obviously past the point of swaddling) I saw people talking about the Aden + Anais brand. So I decided that I'd love to use them for baby two. So when I found out I was pregnant, I looked into Aden + Anais more. I'll be honest, at first the price tag really turned me off. I'm kind of cheap in the way that I don't want to spend a lot of money on something that isn't exactly necessary. However, I kept hearing amazing things about the brand, so I knew I just had to try them out.

So before first use (as with pretty much everything that touches baby) you'll have to wash the swaddles in cold water, with like colors and tumble dry on low heat. DO NOT add bleach and do not iron them, ever! The first thing I noticed was how incredibly soft they are! They have to be THE SOFTEST swaddle blankets I've ever felt. The swaddle blankets I used with my son are described as "swaddling your baby in extreme softness" but they are not nearly as soft as the A+A swaddles! The swaddles we used before are made of polyester while the Aden + Anais swaddles are made of 100% cotton muslin. I love that they are pre-washed so you don't have to worry about them shrinking. This happened with our other swaddle blankets. There are so many great features about the A+A swaddles that I love!

First is the generous size of the swaddles. They're giant compared to swaddle blankets I've used in the past. This means that swaddling your baby will be much easier than if you use smaller sized swaddles blankets. This also means less frustration when you're attempting to swaddle. Being a first time parent is hard, especially if you've never had much interaction with a newborn. When we brought our son home, we had no idea how to swaddle. So the small size of our swaddles made this extremely frustrating. The size of them also means that they are going to have multiple uses. They can be used as a nursing cover, a way to cover your car seat or stroller (and example would be carrying your infant seat in from the car and it's raining), a changing table cover (or wherever you change baby), a burp cloth, a tummy time blanket and so many more. You'll be able to use these long after you're past the point of swaddling. My toddler hates using covers during nap time, but sometimes it gets a little chilly for him. The Aden + Anais swaddles are big enough to cover him, but not too heavy that he'll get to warm and want to kick them off. 

Another important quality of the swaddles is that they are breathable. This is important because it helps prevent your little bundle of joy from overheating. Not only are they extremely soft right when you pull them out of the package, but they only get softer as you wash them. Which is hard for me to imagine because I'm already impressed with how soft they are! Aden + Anais have exclusive prints designed specifically by them. 
They have the most adorable prints! I reviewed the Jungle Jam swaddles which come with a monkey print, a giraffe print, a bird print and an elephant print. They have tons of great options to choose from on their site!

Aden + Anais have kindly offered to let me host a giveaway for their swaddles in winners choice of print! To enter, simply fill out the rafflecopter form below. (Open to the US only)

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You can purchase the swaddles on their site in three different options: a 4 pack for $49.95, a 2 pack for $32.00 or a single swaddle for $32.00.

A little side note I wanted to add was how you pronounce the name because I know I struggled with it at first. They put it on their Facebook page in their "About" section so you know! It's pronounced AY-dun and uh-NAY.

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I received this product at no cost to me for reviewing purposes. All opinions are 100% my own and I was not compensated for this review.