On my way home, I thought back to the day when my husband and I were out on a date "night" seeing a movie. I don't think we were aware we'd be getting any sort of crazy weather. I don't even think we looked at the weather forecast at all. While watching our movie (no longer than 10-15 minutes in) tornado sirens were going off and they asked us all to get into the theaters against the walls. C was maybe only 4-5 months old (
Luckily the storm passed rather quickly, although it seemed like an eternity at the time. Of course all the movie times were messed up and they weren't showing our movie again for another hour or so. We just couldn't be out that long and away from our son. We decided we'd try again another day. As soon as we got to my mom's house, I hugged my little man like I hadn't seen him in ages. Like I said, I hate being away from him as it is and if you add the stress of a storm to it, it doesn't help. (I actually wrote about this on my personal/family blog if you're interested in reading the entire thing.)
Anyway, this got me thinking about our new little one who will be joining us in just a few short months. Will things be the same as they were when I was a first time mom? Am I going to freak out over every little thing? Will I be sad when I leave the kids with a sitter to go out for a couple of hours? I guess it depends on the type of person you are. Some moms say it gets easier as they multiply, some moms still stress over every little thing. I have no idea how things will be once he/she gets here. I don't plan on being away from the kids for a while anyway. I still haven't let C spend the night away from me and he's 2 years old now.
Even the way I have my ideal birth planned, he won't be spending a single night away from me. I know some parents who have let their child spend the night away from them before they turned one. Others didn't let their child spend the night away from them until they were over three. It all depends on your comfort level and mine isn't very high. So it'll be interesting to see how my husband and I react with our new little one. Luckily he holds the same feelings I do when it comes to leaving our children overnight or even for more than a few hours. I love that he doesn't pressure me to let C spend the night away from us because he knows I'm uncomfortable with it. He knows how hard it is to spend time away from C. He's had several Army classes he's attended. The first was when C was 6 months, maybe. It was 2 weeks he spent away. The most recent was 5 miserable weeks and that was before C turned two. So he knows just how stressful and hard it is.
I imagine we'll probably be the same with baby 2, but there's no sure fire way to tell. It's probably just our personalities though. I don't think we're always the most trusting of people and we're extremely protective over our son and will be over the next baby. I think also being a stay at home mom makes me a little more anxious when I have to leave him. (I'm not saying working moms can easily leave their little ones!) I'm just meant to be a stay at home mom because even going back to work, I had to go to the bathroom every single day, multiple times a day to cry because I missed C so much. Even when I pumped twice a day, I sat and cried while looking at a picture of him. It was depressing!
I'm curious for those of you who are parents to more than one child. Did it get easier for you? Harder? Or did it just stay the same? When was the first time you let your little one(s) stay the night away from you and your husband/wife/partner?